If
only ...
Wishful
thinking
by
Jenny Illogic
Ever wish you could undo something? Holler "Do
over!"? Get a second chance? Mutter "If only I had
known"?
Here's my latest: I'm hauling groceries into the
house. The phone rings. I'm deep in conversation. My two dogs
start barking. I head for the ruckus at the front door. It's
the mailman.
The dogs snuck out.
I drop the phone and run outside to see the scared
civil servant spinning in circles and screaming -- dogs on either
side. When he finally follows my command to stand still, I grab
the dogs and haul 'em inside, but not before the little one
manages to get some teeth on the guy's ankle. If only I had
locked the screen door
If only.
If you had the ability to turn back time, would
you use it here? I would have. Even without knowing that everything
would turn out okay. The bite was barely a bruise and the dogs
received the minimum -- a 10-day quarantine at home. The worst
part was the tear-inducing fear that I'd lose my furry friends.
Wouldn't it be nice to back up and fix our faux
pas and blunders?
Sounds grand on the surface. But a super power
like this would certainly come with limits, drawbacks and consequences.
Otherwise we'd all be running around town turning back time
willy-nilly.
Remember the ripple effect: throw a pebble into
a puddle -- it not only goes plop, but also sends out lots of
little waves that bounce against the edges.
Consider: You walk barefoot in the park, step
on a rusty nail, go to the emergency room, take a tetanus shot,
get a phone number from the nurse, marry the nurse, live happily
ever after.
Now suppose you step on that nail and immediately
reverse at warp speed ... put on your shoes or walk a different
route. How does your decision affect the nurse you never meet?
Could be insignificant -- she could meet somebody
else, get married and live a fairytale life.
Or it could be that treating your wound kept her
out of the ER, where a young kid who'd gotten into some bad
drugs grabs a scalpel and starts slashing nurses and doctors.
Maybe you saved her life. And, in turn, she lived
to continue nursing and save other lives. Who go on to save
others. Etc, etc, etc.
Who knew? Nobody. And therein lies the problem
with such a super power.
So instead of lamenting "if only
"
and wishing to go back and change certain events, choose to
search out the bright side, apologize if necessary, learn a
lesson and say "Next time
I'll stop and lock the
door."